by Kent Kruse

Created on: August 24, 2008   Last Updated: November 01, 2008

When trying to start dating again after fifty don't be discouraged about it. The first thing that you need to do is not get worried about how you look. Sure your not twenty years old anymore but neither is the woman that you are going to start dating. Well not always but lets stick to the norm. Women of your age group are not looking for a model they are looking for a guy with good character and the ability to make them feel good about themselves. Someone who can make a smile come to their face and keep it there. They want to care for someone and have that care appreciated. They want someone who will be loving not only to them but to their families as well.

To approach a women is going to take time. You are not going to succeed at once. At least not most of the time anyway. It is going to take time. First maybe just a hello and a small conversation. Make sure to pay attention to this conversation because a women will let you know what her likes and dislikes are a lot of the time. It will give you what you need for the next encounter with the women. Pay close attention to how she moves and what she is wearing at the time. But under no Circumstance let yourself be caught eyeballing her. Be gentle and courteous but don't over do it. This encounter may be at a grocery store, mall, or wherever it really does not matter. Just make mental notes about what you see.

Now if this is a random encounter then you need to try and get a second encounter and you need to use your information that you obtained in your conversation with her. If she likes plants, then offer a tour of some nature. If she likes books then let her know of your favorite book that you think she might be interested in. Does she love her family and talk about them a lot. If so let her know about yours. Maybe she likes to cook.

Now if this is a chance encounter and the conversation is going well then make an attempt to both go and get something to eat or ice cream or something like that. Say "well you know I was on my way to get a bit to eat and I would really enjoy some company. Its not that often that I get a chance to talk to someone that I can relate to", something of that nature. You will have to decide how that line goes at the time. If there is a refusal then maybe make a joke and another attempt but if you get another refusal then let it go.

Now if this is someone that you know you should not be scared and give that person a call and get some conversation going. After some talk do the same thing. Invite her out to eat or something. If you know what she likes already then have some idea about doing that very thing. Maybe a home and garden show or whatever it is she likes. Again don't be too persistent and let it go if it fails the first time. There will be other times down the road.

Now I know that there are Senior singles groups as well. If you attend one of these functions then you already know that the women there are looking for someone. Now your only competition is other guys. This is not a problem however. Make yourself known. Don't stay out of things. Join in on conversations and be polite and friendly. Even to other guys. Especially if they are being challenging or mean themselves. Show restraint. Show discipline. A lot of women think they need to mold a man. If they think you are too much work then you will be out of the picture.

The bottom line is this. Be yourself with some extra effort. Be kind, sure of yourself, humorous if and when possible, and always be the best you can be.

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