by Linda Shrigley

Created on: August 23, 2008   Last Updated: August 25, 2008

Things to consider before dating as a single parent

Children are very emotional when their parents break up. They don't understand what is happening, by the changes in their parent's attitudes, and emotions, but they do not understand the negative effect of their parent's emotions, and will often blame themselves for their parent's sadness. Children are precious, and it is our duty to keep them safe, and loved, no matter what our relationship with our spouse's are.

A single parent should have the children's considerations in mind first, and foremost, when they are getting ready to start dating, after the separation from their spouse. We have to make sure our children are safe from a predators grasp. There are way too many people out there that are just looking for a single parent; waiting to get closer to the children. It's not right, but it happens way too often.

In many cases, a man, or woman, will meet a man or woman, they would like to get to know better, but they will not want the children to interfere with their relationship. They will either ignore the child/children all together, or they will be abusive toward the child/children of the single parent. There are some people out there that will get close to the man, or woman, so they can be brought together with the child/children, only so they can sexually abuse the child/children of the single parent. There are a lot of sick people out there, and we HAVE to protect our children from them.

Single parents must keep their children's preferences in mind when choosing another partner. If the child/children do not seem to get along with the other person in their life, they will make their feelings well know, by way of acting out towards the other person in question. They may be rude to them, they may possible be physical with the other person, in ways in which they are trying to tell their parent that they don't wish to be around this person.

Children are a pretty good judge of character, when it comes to whom they want around their parents. Children pick up on things that, we as parents, would not even think of. They will recognize the signs of dislike towards them, long before the parent will realize it. Children seems to have a sixth sense about the feelings of others around them, they sense things that we would never even consider looking for.

How many of you single parent's wonders why your child will shy away from someone you are trying to get to know better, and seem standoffish towards that person? Lots

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