by Cheryl Keyworth

Created on: August 22, 2008

Have you ever thought of being a foster parent, but worry that you might not be able to "give" the children back? There are many areas in fostercare that need stable, devoted, loving and strong parents to help care for a child or children temporarily while their family works at putting their lives together.

It will always be difficult to care for these little ones for a time and then be able to help them transition back to their family or relations. And why is it difficult? Mainly, we become foster parents because of our deep love and appreciation for children and their needs. It's not possible to be a good foster parent and keep an arm's length away from the emotional feelings that overwhelm us all.

Our focus is, first and foremost, to provide a safe, nurturing and structured environment where these little ones are loved and included in our family. Our second focus is in reuniting the children with their families and providing support to the natural families as necessary. When their return to their natural family is not in their best interest, we must prepare the child to transition to a "forever" family (if we have chosen not to be that family).

Being a foster parent means loving unconditionally and giving more of yourself than you think you might have to give. Your patience and understanding will be pushed to its limits, but you will always find more strength to persevere and provide all that your foster child needs in your family.

Should you consider becoming a foster parent, you will need to think about the age groups that you would like to work with, you will need to accept the inclusion of various workers and therapists into your home (and they will become extended family and support), you will learn to advocate for your foster child in school, with the placement agency, with the medical professionals and with the legal team that represents your child.

Most of all, you will learn to see the world through the eyes of your foster child and the meaning of the word love and devotion will take on a new meaning in your heart. There is no greater gift than a child. We are able to provide a temporary, safe haven for each child that enters our lives. And with each child, you will experience a joy and a hope that you will make a difference in their lives.

Make an appointment with the licensing worker in your area to ask questions, visit with other foster parents, or attend training sessions to learn more about opening your heart and your family to a child that needs you today.

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