by Silkbutterfli

Created on: August 21, 2008

As an older woman, I have found it interesting that younger men are drawn to me and other older women. I have asked different men that I have both dated and married why. Their responses vary, but the most common answer has been, because we know what we want. Another has been because we are more mature and don't giggle like little girls.

My ex husband was seven years younger than me. At the time we met, I didn't look anything like my age. I was still getting carded (that is a real boost to the ego when you are over 30). According to him, I was mature, I knew what I wanted, I was settled and I had a great personality. We lasted seven years. Why? Well, he still wanted to play and party and I didn't. Well, there was more to it, but that was the basic part of it.

Younger men tend to see us as more stable, not wanting to be out partying all the time or bed hopping. More mature women tend to like long term relationships versus short ones. While we enjoy going out, we want to be able to stay in too. Cuddling on the couch, watching movies, or just enjoying the quiet. We are considered homebodies to a lot of people. Younger women want to stay out later and don't want to stay in as often.

I have always been more attacted to men who are younger than ones my age or older. The younger men seem to have more fun, try to keep things more active. They want to go out and do things whereas older men seem to want to stay in more and do nothing. At least the ones I have met.

I am almost 44 and I have been hit on by guys as young as 18 (yes, I turned them down, I don't get involved with guys young enough to be my son). Why? They think we are sexier, we know what we want in the bedroom because we have already done most of it. Who told them that? Anyway, that was another reason I was given. We are more apt to play more in the bedroom and want to have sex more. I was amazed at that response. Those of us over 40 are getting ready to hit menopause, experiencing changes in our bodies that we aren't really thrilled about, how does that come across that we want to more? I haven't figured that part out.

I don't really know why some younger men are drawn to older women, I am not really sure why we are drawn to the younger men either. I know some of the reasons I am, but they may be different than other older women. I personally think younger men keep us feeling young, keep us on our toes and more active. If I can continue to have my preference, I will choose a younger guy every time.

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