by V.J. Lott

Created on: January 08, 2007   Last Updated: May 17, 2007

As parents sometimes we tend to butt in... where we should butt out. We don't want our children to make the same mistakes that we did. Little do we know they won't, they will make their own and learn from them. We can't always be there for our kids to hold them by the hand. In the words of my mother "Just have to let go and let god."

Some of us, not naming any names, are very protective of our kids. Even after they leave home we still want to Interfere and take control. If your daughter marries a bum, you want to tell her what she should and shouldn't do. You want to start an argument at dinner and send her storming away crying and yelling "I don't know why I try mother." Its hard to keep your mouth shut and just watch her being taken advantage of. You have a hard time keeping things under your belt and feel that you should speak out.

Do it the right way, and you may not get such a negative response. Today's generation is way different, and we don't pick husbands anymore and send them "A Courting." Sit down with your daughter and talk to her woman to woman. Ask her if she approves of her significant other being so lazy, or whether it bothers her? If she says it doesn't, leave it at that. Don't say "Are you insane." In due time if she is lying you will find out. Because on a rainy night just when you've gotten the cover just past your knees the phone will ring. You'll pick it up and before you can say "Hello." She'll sob into the phone. "It's over... I can't take it anymore mother." You'll smile and lie down and it'll be sweet dreams- right?

Wrong. Chances are it may be years before that happens. If it ever does. You just have to remember its her life, The more you tell her no the more she wants to do it. Save yourself a trip to the Cardiologist and just "Butt Out."

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