by V.J. Lott

Created on: January 08, 2007   Last Updated: April 26, 2007

I'm sure we all as parents at some point and time experienced the "terrible twos" stage in our toddlers. The age of two can also be the time your little one starts to act a bit more independent. Two year olds are very emotional, because they don't yet know how to express their feelings. Giving your child some Independence may cut down on the tantrums.

For instance if you child doesn't want to eat his/her dinner there is no need to get upset. The problem could have easily been solved by asking your child "Would you rather have Mac and cheese or Spaghetti." Your child will be delighted that he/she is getting to pick. You can also use this method when you are getting your child ready in the morning. Whether it is for daycare, school, or a trip to grandma's giving your child a touch of independence can make the trip a lot easier. Set out two outfits and let your child point to the one he/she wants to wear.

By the time your child reaches age 5-7 he/she will be a little more independent. They will be able to possibly dress themselves alone, and with a little help prepare snacks for themselves. Children this age are already in school, and are developing relationships with other children their age. They also may be able to participate in sports. Letting your child choose his or her after school activities may benefit the both of you. Letting your seven year old choose to be in Little League or Softball is a form of independence. Also extracarricular activities help:

(1)Build self-esteem and self-confidence
(2)Enhance social skills
(3)Teach sportsmanship
(4)Provide exposure to other cultures and people
(5)Improve time management skills.
(Partnership for Learning. After-School, last referenced 12/9/2002)

It's true that we think letting them have more independence makes them grow up to fast. That our little bright eyed two year old will soon be a ravishing teen beauty and off to college. Without independence how will they learn? Talk to your child and listen to his or her ideas and questions. In the end, you're helping them grow and learn.

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