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already, he probably isn't interested. If he is interested later on down the road, he could reasonably ask around about you and attempt to find you again. If you ask, the most reasonable response is for him to say yes and not appear rude or upset you. Even if he has no intention of calling he will want to solicitous, and that will only make it harder on you if he never calls.

Don't ask him if he remembers your name. If he is interested past a one night stand, he probably does remember. Also, don't ask him what his name is if you can't remember. This will only make you look bad. If he has any further interest in you, he will probably not take kindly to not having his name remembered.

Whatever you do, do not ask him "how you were" the night before. This looks very clingy and needy, and he might not even remember anyway. See if he mentions it first, if things were really good he probably will. Men tend to be very straightforward and will say what's on their mind. There is not really a need to play detective to find out his thoughts. If he is interested, he will tell you.

Should he ask you to stay for breakfast, or invite you for a shower then you need to decide on your interest in him. Accepting the invitation will give the appearance that you are interested in him. If you're not interested then don't stay and hang out. It will give him a false impression. But if you are interested and want to sit across a table with last night's makeup still on, then by all means stay. The best course may be to graciously decline to stay but that you would love to take him up on that offer at another time.

If you still find yourself walking through his apartment with his roommates watching from the couch, with smeared makeup, rumpled hair, and a missing shoe then take this last bit of advice. Roll your eyes at the snickering roommates and walk out with your head held high. There is nothing to be ashamed of, so why act ashamed and embarrassed? Look straight ahead, walk with your head up, and call your girlfriends with the highlights of the evening when you get home.

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