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There is a fairly high chance that everyone has been in this situation. You meet a man at a bar, he buys you a few drinks and you talk until closing time. This man then turns to you and asks if you'd like to come back to his place for a bit. Seeing as everything went so well, and being attracted to him, you agree. That is where the questions start. Should you stay the whole night? Do you sneak out the next morning and do the Walk of Shame all the way home? Should you leave your number? What about breakfast in the morning?
One night stands seem to be fairly commonplace around the bar and club scene these days, and that is nothing to be ashamed of. You are your own woman, and therefore capable of making your own decisions. But, for women at least, one night stands are frowned upon. Good girls surely do not do things like that. Whereas the men involved are usually given a heart pat on the back and a congratulations from their buddies. If you go the route of the one night stand, just try to keep a few things in mind to maintain a dignified and respectable air about you.
Don't use the whole, "I never do this" line. More than likely as soon as that escapes your lips, he'll think this is exactly what you do on a regular basis. On the same note, he doesn't need to know just how frequently you do engage in one night stands. It's not really his business. If he asks, just throw him a flirty little grin and say "Well is doesn't come naturally to me". That is vague enough to let you keep it your secret and give him a legitimate answer at the same time.
Don't stay too long afterwards. If you are awake, you should be looking to go home. If he had wanted you to stay longer, he would have said something. Staying too long past your welcome will only make you look eager. Don't assume that he'd like you to stay around. If he is in the shower when you wake, this is a pretty good indication that he'd hoping you'll have left when he comes back.
Don't try to make conversation if you are a morning person. Some people are not, and it could make him even more uncomfortable. From a man's standpoint the idea of waking up next to a stranger and having some deep and in-depth conversation is certainly not desirable. If you do speak in the morning, don't mention anything about a date or hook-up in the future. If he wants to see you again, this will only intrigue him more about you and make him want to see you.
Don't offer him your phone number, or just leave it for him. Again, if he didn't ask
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