by Lady Z

Created on: August 15, 2008   Last Updated: August 26, 2008

I sent an SMS to my husband today. It went like this, "Hmmmm my figure looks good today in this pare of old jeans. My butt looks much rounder than before." Shortly after he replied, "Yeah that's the kind I like!" Two hours later, he was knocking at the front door and sheepishly smiling giving me an excuse that he had forgotten to bring along an important document with him this morning. However, instead of heading to the study room to collect the latter, he led me to the bedroom for a lunchtime rendezvous.

Last week, whilst I was trying on a lacy bra at a lingerie shop, my husband called to check my whereabouts. I chatted and made a remark that I looked good in the bra that I was trying on. He told me not to buy until he gave me the green light, so he rushed down from his office to where I was and we made love in the fitting room itself.

A couple of months ago, due to work commitment, my husband and I were living separately in different towns, so the only form of communication was by phone or the internet. There were even a couple of occasions where even a simple SMS or short phone call in the middle of the night would turn him on and we would end up having phone sex. He would then blame it on my "bedroom voice". Sometimes when things got pretty hot between us, he would arrange to meet me at the nearby town or even ask me to come over.

Initially, I was so shy and against the idea of sending those SMS but I realized that those actions really grew on my husband and he enjoyed every moment whenever we chat or meet up. Well, my husband is the shy and soft-spoken type you see, while I am slightly on the louder side and not afraid of voicing out my opinions and desires. For years I have been trying to get him to participate actively in our conversation but he would only chat actively on topics which he is interested in. So most of the times, there would be dead silence between us and I had to initiate something to get us connected again.

The idea of talking dirty came to mind when I realized that we are both highly sexed, hence I tried to arouse his sexual attention by dressing and carrying myself sensually at first. As he is a lover of big and heavy bottom, I used that asset of mine to my advantage and whenever I try to arouse his attention, I would always drop hint pertaining to my assets. It is delightful to see his response to all my advances which gives me a great sense of accomplishment.

Communications then became so easy between us that we were able to relate with each other about any topic. Therefore, I looked at talking dirty as a channel to get him engage more in our relationship and it really works! Now, he is able to convey his wants and his sexual desires to me. There are even times when he would ask if those desires are possible to achieve. Therefore, acting as his "sex guru", I would try as far as possible to perform according to his expectation and desire but materializing the desires aside, the greatest achievement is that my husband is now able to express his opinion freely! This does not only improve our quality of life together, it has also helped him in boosting his self-esteem and excels in his work.

I believe the change that I see in my husband today is largely due to his success in combating the fear he has inside of him. It is this fear that inhibits his creativity and confidence which made him the shy and soft-spoken man he was before. There is a category of people who are aware of their weaknesses but do not have courage to get enroll themselves in enrichment classes or seek professional help. For me, I am proud to have made a significant contribution to my marriage and my husband's life, thanks to the art of talking dirty!

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