by James Kent

Created on: August 14, 2008   Last Updated: May 05, 2010

Mixed race relationships are becoming more popular and I think they are something to embrace. In my experience there is still a lot of opposition to these relationships, which is a great shame. After being in a serious mixed race relationship for the past eight years, I would like to think that I have gained some experience on this subject. In this article I will address some of the things that I have learned during my relationship and hopefully the information I present will be helpful to others within or considering a mixed race relationship. For the purposes of this article when I refer to a mixed race relationship, I am discussing relationships between a white male and an ebony/black female. This article is also written from the perspective of the white male.

One of the first things that I have learned about mixed raced relationships is many black women don't even consider them as a possibility. This is possibly best illustrated by one of the first things my girlfriend said to me and that was "I didn't think you would like me because I am black" but I wasn't even thinking about it like that. To me we we were just two adults who found each other attractive. In my experience this reaction is not at all unusual. I think it's important to allow people to explore a mixed relationship without reservations from friends and family.

It's my opinion that when considering a relationship the color of someone's skin should not be an issue. When I was growing up and thinking about the qualities my ideal woman would have and the color of her skin was not a concern. Of course I never thought of it again until I met my girlfriend. When we did meet I saw beauty not color and as we started our relationship the fact that we were of a different race was not an issue. Even eight years on it's still not an issue to us, but other people will make it an issue. The bottom line here is there is no reason a mixed raced couple can't be deeply in love. Love is not reserved for same race relationships. 

A component of the way we live is that we are so wrapped up on everyone's opinion on us. I'm sure if a random survey was done a large proportion of people would not even consider a mixed race relationship purely on the basis of a poor reaction from family and friends. I think this is sad and I am a firm believer in following the heart. In fact many couple have broken of a happy and loving relationships because of the reactions from friends or family.

After being in a mixed

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