by Gena

Created on: August 13, 2008

In my opinion, if your relationship was worth your time and energy to begin with then ending the relationship should be a last resort. Then we need to take into consideration the level of your relationship. If a couple has decided to get married then that relationship is taken to a whole other level that should be taken even more seriously as opposed to just a dating or casual relationship. Marriage is the ultimate agreement between two people who love each other. By getting married this couple is agreeing to work, live and love each other for the rest of their lives. That being said, divorce is ultimately on the rise and will always be an option for most couples. For me divorce is "giving up" and breaking a covenant. The decision to end or mend a relationship depends on a few factors.

1. Is the problem the couple is facing one that can be corrected through communication coaching or counseling? If so, then it seems logical to me for the couple to come together and try to mend their relationship.

2. Is there physical or emotional violence in the current relationship? If so, there is definitely a reason to possibly discuss the need to end the abusive relationship. Again, I would choose to end the relationship as a last resort however, with physical and emotional abuse in the picture the decision to end the relationship would not be a difficult one for me.

3. Are there any children involved? If so, I would have to really consider the consequences of deciding to end the relationship. I would have to suggest that each person take a good look at their situation and think about the ramifications their decision could have on their children and the rest of their family. Are they being selfish or is there really a problem with their relationship that cannot be fixed?

I believe that every situation and relationship is unique and only those that are in that relationship know whether or not it is worth saving. A relationship and/or marriage should be healthy for each partner and where children are involved especially. If someone is in a relationship where they are not comfortable, unhappy or depressed then it is time to relook at the relationship and ask themselves what it is they are truly looking for. Sometimes people change and sometimes we expect our partners to change right along with us and that's not the case for most people. I feel that we need to understand the changes and struggles that each of us may go through and work through them together with our partners but if we find the changes are too much to handle or if only one of you is willing to work at mending the relationship then it might be time to call it quits.

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