by Gail Bertram

Created on: August 13, 2008   Last Updated: August 31, 2010

Etiquette: the word brings to mind a bygone time of finishing schools, horse drawn carriages and chaperones, but this simple code of good manners is not as old-fashioned as it seems. In the modern world, time is of the essence, but simple courtesy in every aspect of your life, from the professional to the personal, takes minimal effort and can influence all of your interactions, whether they are platonic or more than just a little friendly.

One night stands are steadily on the increase, with men and women seeking physical contact and sexual gratification without the entanglements and expectations of commitment. Negative perceptions of individuals who take part in these encounters still linger. While a man may be considered to merely be "playing the field", a woman may face a wider range of reactions, from enthusiasm to disgust.

Whether you go out with a one-night-stand in mind or find yourself succumbing to a serious bout of sexual chemistry, there are some important things to remember.

Before You Begin

One of the most basic things to know before you slip between the sheets with someone is their name. Even if you think you'll forget it in the long run, in this time and place they should be the only person on your mind, and knowing how they like to be addressed will save confusion and potential embarrassment.

For your personal safety, always have a friend who you can call in an emergency. Men and women can both fall victim to assault of any nature, and committing your friend's phone number to memory could save your life.

That friend can also act as an excuse whether you are looking for a quick and painless exit from someone's unwanted affections or a graceful way to depart after a fantastic night. They can call you, and it gives you the option to stay or go without losing face.
Also, do not forget to use protective contraception. Do not rely on your partner to protect you from sexually transmitted diseases or a surprise pregnancy. Responsibility is sexy and its only polite, showing your partner that you're thinking of their health as well of your own.

What To Say?

So, you decided to make a night of it and have had a great time, but now, on the other side of bliss, there is a potential social minefield to navigate.

"I've never done this before" gives the impression that you are ashamed of your behavior. Your partner will probably also get the idea that you are protesting too much, and that this is actually the norm for you. However, that does not mean you can

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