by Cray Sellars

Created on: August 13, 2008   Last Updated: August 26, 2008

I just recently started talking dirty to my girlfriend of five years. We just started talking dirty to each other on a regular basis. It wasn't something that was planned, it just happenned. I have always been open to using "dirty" language while we were conversating on the telephone. She didn't respond to my foul language in a positive way in the beginning of our relationship. She has definitely opened up since our first sexual phone conversation. She is a happy and willing participate in our dirty conversations. She has more confidence in how she expresses herself now.

It can be a wonderful experience to have sexual conversations with someone you love. It doesn't matter if you are straight or gay. It doesn't matter if you are African-American,Asian,or Caucasian. It really doesn't matter what social class you are in or your amount education. The main thing that you need to have great sexual conversations, is an open mind. You also must have a willingness to listen and learn from each other. Both parties must participate in these conversations and express themselves truthfully. This is the only way to find out what your lover wants and needs.

Sexual conversations can take place in person or over the phone. It would be better to have these conversations in person. Sometimes it is not possible to see each other. It would make it more exciting to see your lover's expressions in person. On the other hand, it would be more romantic to have these conversations over the telephone. You can make the fantasy as outrageous or tame as you want it to be. You and your lover are in control of how far to take the fantasy. It is a private session between two consenting adults.

I talk dirty to my girlfriend over the phone from time to time. We are in a long-distance relationship, and talking dirty over the phone helps us make it through the week. It gives us something to look forward to on those long and lonely nights until we see each other. It has rekindled a fire in our relationship, that was dying. We can both describe what we are wearing, when we call each other. We can have virtual phone sex over the phone. It has put more excitement and romance in our relationship. Talking dirty has helped us realize what each other wants and needs. We have become more creative in the bedroom and our relationship. It has taken some of the guesswork out of our sex-life.

I would suggest talking dirty to anyone who is having trouble in their relationship. It can provide a much needed spark to a dying relationship. The key to a healthy relationship is romance. You can't have romance without excitement. This is a good way to bring excitement into a relationship. It can be healthy for a couple that really wants to change their relationship. It can give a couple's sex-life a big boost. It can prevent people in a relationship from cheating on each other. If someone is not happy in a relationship, they will go elsewhere.

It doesn't matter how old or young a couple is, talking dirty will add spice to their relationship. It should take the relationship to another level. It should improve the couple's sex-life. I would rather take a chance on doing something out of the ordinary, than lose my girlfriend to someone else. Once your significant other is gone, it is too late to try something new.

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