by Costas Chryanthou

Created on: August 11, 2008   Last Updated: April 22, 2009

I would think that it is better to have a small group of friends as opposed to having large numbers of people that you just know. I find that it is finding the necessary time and day in contacting loads of friends and being able to keep up and in contact with large numbers. By comparison having a small number is by far easier to stay in contact on a regular basis.

Following on from the point I made, is the ease and much more better focused interaction amongst a small number of people. The quality experience is much enhanced, and as such people can get to know them better if the groups are small. The experience is more spread out unevenly having large groups. This is due to the Big brother type group effect where one or two people dominate the group and some of the rest of the people in the group suffer slightly as a result of large groups.

In some places such as pubs, bars and restaurants having a large group of friends to go out with can prove more costly, and perhaps reduces the intimacy and the quality of the relationship from the group interactions. Certain people might struggle in getting their voices heard, and being in a large group of friends the show off type people dominate and grab the limelight, which makes weaker and more introverted individuals feel less important to the group. Having a small number of good friends is what is important.

I would find it hard to keep in touch with large numbers of friends that I felt did not totally fit in with my lifestyle, or personality and based on the interaction. Having a few friends is a lot easier in getting their attention, and maintaining a good relationship by being able to focus on them personally and perhaps try and learn and understand more in-depth stuff about a few people.

Going out somewhere with a large group of people might seem more safe and secure way of going out, though how can people talk and enjoy themselves in this way. It would be a bit like going out in a team to a shopping centre and feeling like an individual with other people a bit like having extra security people around. This is something where I would not find fun or interesting at all. The idea of having friends is being able to communicate and share opinions and experiences.

I feel that whether it be a large or small group of friends, it is important to have some people that are close enough and who interact in a good positive and non judgemental manner.

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