by Sylvia Joan

Created on: August 10, 2008   Last Updated: October 31, 2008

Is it better to be single? I have often asked myself this question on a daily basis. I am only 21 years old, I have been told many times that I am attractive and boys often fall at my feet.
If I wanted a relationship I know I could have one, but I would be settling for something less than what I want.
I have been in love, although it didn't last for very long, I have never felt like that about another person. I felt that my ex knew how I was feeling before I knew myself and he was often my shoulder to cry on. We spent many happy times together and I loved spending time with him. He was the perfect gentlemen, always paying when we went out. Not like the men I have met recently, he was quite the opposite.

We spent many days together talking and getting to know each other and I loved that. It was a nice feeling having all that commutation with another person and so different to the guys I have met in the past.
Most of the guys I have met are just interested in getting me into bed. Their charm is sometimes dazzling and it amazes me how much they try to fool me. I have learnt a lot in the last three years about men. I would not trust a guy but I would let his charm win me over, and I have ended up in situations that I now regret. One night stands are not worth it and I learnt the hard way, but it was a good lesson to learn in the end.
My ex and I split up and it was left on bad terms, since I have found it hard to replace him and most of the time I don't want to. I split up with him over a year and a half ago, we speak rarely now as his new girlfriend will not let us.
He was and still is an amazing man, he was special and no guy could replace him, not in my eyes anyways.
And maybe that is my problem? Maybe I like being single because I have no choice, as I still do not want to replace my ex, no matter how much I have tried to force myself to in the past. I have learnt a lot of lessons and have had my heart broken many of times. But it is now, that I have started to realise, I like what I have got, rather than what I haven't got, or had in the past.
I like living my life without having to check in after a night out with my friends. I like not having my phone going off every five minutes with "him" just wondering what I am up to.
Even when it comes to meeting new guys, I am very rarely interested and I just enjoy having a good time. I like being able to flirt and I like to let my hair down. I seem happier when I am single.
Of course I have lonely nights when I wish I had someone, and I see what my friends have, I tend to compare it to what I don't have. I just don't think it is worth being with someone for the sake of it. I would like to meet a special guy again but know I will have to wait.
So, to conclude to the question of this article (is it better to be single?), I think it is, for all the reason I have listed above.

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