by Lucy Collins

Created on: August 10, 2008   Last Updated: March 01, 2009

It can be very difficult to decide whether to abandon a relationship that is in trouble. Just because it is not as good as it used to be, does it mean that you should leave? When trying to decide whether to `stay or go`, it is important to take everything into consideration. Things are not going to stay the same. It may not be as good as it was in the begining. A relationship should not be harmful though, to either partner. If someone is being damaged physically, it is certainly not tolerable. Mental torture can be just as harmful in a different way. Neither of these should be accepted so it may be time to make the decision to go. Don`t take the decision too lightly though for minor problems. Once you have left it may not be possible to return. Don`t think that the grass in greener when it may not be. Likewise, don`t stay in a relationship just because you are scared to be on your own.

The honeymoon period does not last. A relationship should grow and feelings deepen. The excitement at the begining will not be as intense and the relationship may become boring. You may find yourself wishing that things were different, that they were how they used to be. A relationship needs to be worked at, by both partners. If one is not happy, there needs to be a discussion to try to resolve things. It may be possible to improve things, but how do you know when the time comes to leave?

Whatever the problem is in a relationship, it is important to talk. Sometimes discussions can be difficult, especially if one partner refuses to talk. It can be difficult to see things from inside the relationship. It can often be that a partner doesn`t realise that they are behaving in a certain way. A friend may often be able to help. If they are able to point out one little problem, it may help to resolve things. It could be that the relationship is at a stage where there is no longer one little problem, but lots of problems. In this instance marriage guidance may be a good option. This would allow both partners to get things off their chest while the other listens. It could be that a mediator will enable the couple to sort things out.

If a relationship is stale, it does not necessarily mean that the relationship needs to end. It is possible to try to spice things up. Try to be spontaneous, treat your partner. Do new things together to create new experiences and happy feelings. You still can go out together and have a good time. In this busy society, it is often the simple things that we forget

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