by Ryan Pearson

Created on: August 09, 2008

Controlling emotions in every day family
life is a key element to having a happy and
healthy home environment. It is not always
easy. It takes awareness and practice to
maintain control over our emotions when dealing
with the other family members in our household.

For many of us, we were never taught to manage our
emotions in a healthy way. For many people they
wear their emotions on their sleeve and are naturally

reactive, to any situation or circumstance that is
in front of them. Then there are the people that
are the opposite of that, who have their emotions
so blocked and buried, they don't show any emotion
at all. So where is the balance of the two?

Different families have different dynamics. Family
life can be a very interesting situation sometimes,
because you have several different personality
types all living together under one roof in a
somewhat confined space. Some homes are more confined
than others. Plus the dynamics will vary greatly depending
on how many people are part of the family. Some
families have a Mom, a Dad and two children. Some have
a Mom, a Dad and nine children. Some have a Mom and three
children. Some have a Dad, one child and a Grandmother
living together. There are an unlimited number of possibilities
of different family living scenarios.

Every single individual in each of these different family
structures has his or her own unique personality. Each individual
also has their own different way of expressing their emotions.
Sometimes, I would even say often times, you have family
members that have very different, even opposite personality
types and ways of expressing their emotions. This can sometimes
be difficult.

It is important to realize that we are all being programmed as
children. What I mean is, it is our subconscious mind that carries
our core beliefs and from those beliefs many of our emotions
are created.Our subconscious mind absorbs the most information
to create our core beliefs between the ages of two and six years old.
So for many adults, they are running patterns, on autopilot, that
were created as children. So if you grew up with a parent or sibling
that expressed anger very often, when you were a child, and you
were constantly exposed to that, then you may naturally feel and
express anger easily and often. Or you may experience the opposite
and keep your anger repressed, because, on a subconscious level,
you do not want to be like that family member that was always
directing anger at you and the other members of the family.

Now knowing that it is the subconscious

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