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This just starts the debate of men are from Venus and Women are from Mars all over again.

Studies have been done by qualified universities that have proven that men don't even want to have a sit down conversation about a serious subject. Women are the ones that have face to face conversations. Women are the people that initiate many conversations and usually are the ones that bring up the question of "where is this relationship going?"

I have some welcome advice from a woman that has been married to a guy-person that only just started having serious conversations after twenty years of marriage. Talk to your partner. It might not seem like the easiest conversation to have, but if you want the relationship to move ahead, you have to muster up your courage into that heart thumping realm and go for it.

But what you have to do is set the mood. Clear the children or the dogs that want attention out of the room. Get a sitter if you have to but have that serious conversation that all relationships need to have. And then ask that all important question. "Who will do the dishes today?" I'm only kidding. But in all seriousness, what you really need to do is talk about where the relationship is going. Let's say you've been seeing each other for two years now and you both get along great you make a great team. You both know that you want to spend the rest of your life together, but no one has brought up the subject. The two of you don't want to end the wonderful thing you have going on by bringing up the "where are we going with this relationship" conversation.

Do not chase your guy around and nag him. Guys don't like negativity and if you constantly nag him about getting married and he is not ready to commit, you may just be scaring him off for good. The best thing you can do is broach the subject of getting married, or moving into together from the standpoint of how it will benefit him. Besides by following him around and nagging him, he may just run for the nearest exit because he is thinking, "Is this the way the rest of my life is going to be?"

Tell your guy what benefits he will be reaping by getting married. He will of course be able to have sex just about whenever he wants. There won't be any more reason to go to bars looking for one night stands. He can have a loving, supportive person on his side to help him through the good times as well as the bad times. There will be that double income thing happening, so that if he loses his job, he has someone to fall back on.

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