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A guy's take: How to confront a man with his faults
Have you ever told a girlfriend the truth as in yes your bum does look big in that?

After the initial pain of the slap or the instant freezing of the room, can you remember what happened next?

It is without doubt one of the trickiest things in life to have to tell a man that he is doing; or is even capable of doing something wrong.

We are after all perfect.
At least that is what women would have us believe until the time the ring is on the finger.
Being told two days after the wedding that my new wife did not like the way I looked at other women was a start, No subtle remarks like "darling, could we talk in private please"
Oh no straight out in the crowded bar "what you looking at her for?"

The pain in the back of my neck was as great as if she had used a real dagger.
That was the first of many an occasion when she would tell me in public that I was doing this that or the other wrong.
Being a quiet person at heart it was with great reluctance that I would rise to the bait every time and come back with a sarcastic comment leading to far more cross words before the problem was deemed sorted.

The trouble was that if she thought I had a problem, she would always choose a time when there were friends or relatives about to mention one or more of the things I did that annoyed her, to make things worse I would go out of my way to deliberately do those things to rile her because of this fact.

I guess what I am saying is that should any partner of mine have a problem with something I do then it is best if I am told/confronted/informed of this in a private situation.

It is bad enough us guys being told that we have made mistakes (we all of us are prone to it)
The secret to getting us to change for the better is not to let all our mutual friends know that you know.
Yes you may point things out in private but the cardinal sin is to let others know.

I am sure I speak for a great swathe of men whose only ambition in life is to get through it without everyone knowing that their toenail clippings are like rhino horns and should not be left on the bathroom floor or on the living room coffee table.

Something's (mostly personal) should remain secret between partners, breaking that trust will ultimately break up the relationship if it happens too often.

Yes this may seem like a rant against women but in general it is only women who feel it necessary to point out men's faults on a daily basis.
This could be due to the arrogance of the male species brought on by the adoration shown by females until they are snared.
The truth though lies somewhere in between, we know as men we are not perfect in fact it is an unwritten law that men shall remain quiet about another mans failings in public, women on the other hand are not privy to this law and will overstretch the mark when it comes to confrontation..

Please remember to do it in private.

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