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Everyone, man or woman has a feminine side and a masculine side. So if you think your man hasn't got a soft side, you're wrong. Most men are drug up from babies being bullied. Women have the same problem. It's like being forced to be vulnerable or having a fist fight which looks more and more appealing the longer being bullied goes on.

Then men come packed with testosterone which makes them even more masculine. Women naturally have estrogen which can be equally stimulated. The first thing a woman has to do to get her man feeling more vulnerable is to remove the suspicious that shroud a woman and a man's relationship.

There is a distinct level of mistrust that's uncomfortable in most relationships from the time they get started until the time they end or go sower. Amazingly most men and women simply accept it and live with it even though it causes serious moods swings and even violence.

No man or woman like to think that their partner will be unfaithful. So this needs to be talked about in a kind and considerate way until you both feel comfortable with the relationship.
Then you can feel at ease with showing your vulnerable side more and more. Excitement is to be expected but it needs to be controlled. Watch out for indulging yourself with alcohol or drugs. These substance will cause over excitability on a permanent basis and women don't like a man that is unsure of himself, especially all the time.

You can turn your vulnerability on and off as you please and the more you work that switch, the better you get at it. Remember, nothing's so big you can handle it even breaking up. Why? Because women are not perfect and neither are men.Vulnerability is not a weak side. It is a passive side where you simply don't react.

Let's say you haven't been feeling like your woman wants you very much and you think she'd be with anyone. That is a wrong assumption. You are thinking suspiciously and that ain't good.
Let's say she knows you've been looking around and accusing you of it. Relax, be vulnerable and say I don't know what you're talking about. Being vulnerable can be a whole lot of fun.

You may find yourself being vulnerable much more than you like and you want to show your dominance by being loud and frightening. That's the wrong thing to do. You will frighten her and she won't forget it. That's where being vulnerable can really let you off the hook and she'll think better of you for it.

Being cool all the time is what your goal should be and being vulnerable is the key. A funny thing about life and relationship is when you feel crummy, a lot of time they're thinking well about you. So don't let life trick you and like I said, even if you break up it ain't no big thing. You'll feel better like a human being again and you won't get in any trouble being violent.

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