by Ana Armendarez

Created on: August 09, 2008   Last Updated: October 16, 2010

Speaking from experience the best way to deal with differences of opinion or other wise is to talk them out. At times this can be difficult depending on the persons attitude and personality. I lost a sister to suicide and felt guilty for quite some time. When you argue make sure you resolve your differences right away, you don't know what that family member is going through. Chances are they just might need some one to talk to, to understand them, and just to love them as they are, especially when there are differences... no matter how difficult it may seem.

How I manage now, I ask God for guidance, I try to find time to pray over the person and ask that God guide me on how to deal with those differences. You never knnow when tragedy may hit your family and there you are left with no way to apologize except at their funeral with no real knowledge if they can hear you cry for them to forgive you; as I did long ago at my sisters funeral.

Seek Gods advice on how to manage differences, if they are minor, let them go. Let your love for each other over power any small differences you may have, with Gods help, that love and understanding for the both of you will come in time.

When faced with a difficult time now; I do ask God for His guidance, hold my tongue and let that feeling subside until I find the right words to work things out without any hard or ill feelings.

With all sincerity try to ask forgiveness if you are in the wrong, and if not, do your best with all sincerity to be forgiving. Let love be your guide, and soon those differences will vanish and won't be so annoying. If children are involved try not to take your difference with your family member out on the child or children. They are just innocent by standers and truly don't know what you are upset about.

I truly loved my sister and reget that I didn't take the time to find out what was hurting her inside, I didn't take the time to just sit down and talk to her; if I had the chance today I would certanily take and make the time to understand and talk to her. And most of all, I would hug her and let her know that I love her. Now when there are difference; I take notice of myself first, what can I do to make things better before pointing any fingers...and now, when faced with a misunderstanding or difference of opinion, I let God rule over my heart.

Gods love makes differences more tolerable until, you don't notice those differences and should you have an argument or fight, don't hold a grudge, let it go.

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