by Joseph Kiwia

Created on: August 09, 2008   Last Updated: August 20, 2008

A guy's view: How to talk about the future.
It is worthy while to discuss your future with a man before a woman commits herself with him for marriage. However, this should be done cautiously so as not to turn the guy away. It should be well timed and talked about in the right time, right atmosphere and with the right language. A woman should talk about her future plans of being with the man for the lifetime when he is in the right mood; he is in a celebrative mood and demonstrating his love at most. Talking your future with a man when he is in unrelaxed atmosphere and tense mood can turn him away. Also it is advisable to help the man to free himself from stress so that you can talk to him about your dreams of marrying him in the future. A woman should also communicate it with a good language and tone while emphasizing the importance of her decision both to herself and her man.

Women should analyze and be certain beyond doubt that they have common goals the man. They should then communicate these goals with the men showing them how they are willing to achieve the goals in their life as couple. This enlightens the man's heart because men like women who are ambitious and also share common goals in their life with them. Also women should tell men that they would like to be a part of their life or future companions so that they can achieve these goals together. Men like women who appreciate being close to them in their lives and also their companions in their life. Therefore this is a good way of assuring a man of security for your relationship with him in future. Men always value women who share common goals in their lives with them.
Being courageous and telling a man that you would like to stay by him in the future and make developments with him for the sake of your life will earn a mark in the man's heart for the woman. Men like making achievements and developments and would like to be associated with like minded women. Thus men will feel that they have got miss right for marriage because she will enable him to achieve his dreams. It is worthy while for the woman to frankly tell the man why she would like to strengthen the bond between her family and the man's family by being his wife. She should also evaluate how their marriage will be crucial in the society and how it will enhance his status and recognition and will go for a woman who they think will enable them to achieve this.
Finally, a woman should try to live by her man showing him examples of how she would be willing to live with him in the future. She should openly and frankly talk about it in the best form to him and assure him that is what is in stake for her future with him. She should talk to him about her hopes and expectations and how they will benefit the man in the future if he marries her. Good words spoken to a man will always make him happy thus the manner of communicating to him should be solemn and positive. The woman should also monitor her actions so that they can be well planned and good before the eyes of the man. This is because bad actions will turn the man away. Good actions will assure the man that he is expecting a woman of good actions in the future and is a motivator for him to strengthen his love and hopes in a woman.

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