by Marc Phillippe Babineau

Created on: August 08, 2008   Last Updated: August 20, 2008

You are at a sporting event, perhaps a hockey game, with a bunch of friends. You find that you and your friends' girlfriends' friend seem to hit it off, have lots in common, and she seems to be interested in you. A few days later, you get together for a lunch, to feel each other out and see whether there was more there than just a spark. Lunch turns to dinner and a movie on the weekend, off to a bar for drinks and a little snack, maybe some dancing as well. A relationship is born.

Inevitably, as the relationship moves along, feelings become stronger, love proclamations are made, and the time comes when talk is centered on whether to live together. It only makes sense, since you are spending 5 or 6 nights a week together anyways, so why spend all of that extra money on paying rent and bills for two apartments, especially if certain expenses' are going to be in your near future.

Basically, because most guys, if still single and never married, will be too scared of giving up the independance that they just earned from their parents. Timing is always the key in dealing with a guy and his feelings. Moving in together within only a few months of knowing each other will most assuredly spell the beginning of the end of your relationship. You must first prove that you are a lover, and want him the way he is, not the way that he thinks that you want hime to be. Accepting his friends and his hobbies is a lot more important than accepting his apartment key and the two bottom drawers in the dresser.

So, in a guy's view, how to talk about the future? Most guys will be more than happy to talk about their feelings for you, whether or not you should move in together, and when. If you really want to spend your life with the guy, remember that it will be a long life together, and the beginning does not have to be the shortest part. If marriage is your intent, and cohabitation is not in your beliefs, then that should be talked about when you notice that the guy is starting to fall in love with you, not just lust anymore, but true love.

If that talk comes within three months or so of meeting each other, most guys would be scared off, because the relationship would be moving too fast, at a time when you are still just learning about each other. It takes a few camping trips, a trip to an exotic island or a cruise somewhere to start learning each others' true personalities. The real trick on talking to a guy about the possibility of a future together is the timing. Have the talk too

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