by Anthony Cosenza II

Created on: August 07, 2008   Last Updated: August 20, 2008

Ask some women and they will say that finding a good man seems as easy as finding the lost city of Atlantis, and some may even prefer to embark on the treacherous journey of Atlantis than navigate the minefields of relationships trying to find a good man. Unlike the mythical lost city, there is evidence of good men, I should know, I am a good man. My fiance certainly believes I am a good man and my many female friends tell me that I am a good man. The vast majority of my close male friends are also good men. I have to assume that my group of male friends and the women who think we are good men are not an anomaly, and thus there must be many more groups of good men walking around out there. Think about the men you work with at the office, the men you see at the gym, the men you encounter in your everyday activities. You are not looking for the guy calling tons of attention to himself, going out of his way to make you notice him, you are looking for the confident guy who is actually getting the job done, usually the team player who will lead but defer to his team and give credit where credit is due. He is the guy at the gym who is performing his workout to stay healthy, to live long, who gets in and out without the need for an audience. The following is how my female friends found their great guys.

There are a few simple ways to find a good man, as I believe it is not as hard as it seems. If you are looking for you the good man in a bar call your travel agent and book the next trip to Atlantis. Let's face it, in a bar it is dark, your inhibitions are lowered, and at the end of the night you are both a little too drunk and a little too desperate to even make this a lasting and good relationship. Sure he may be an alright guy outside of the bar, respectful, polite and someone whom you may think about taking home to meet your parents, but is a guy who is willing to take you home because he knows you are drunk really that respectful or that much of a good guy? Unless the local bar is having a wine tasting or a micro-brewing class, try meeting a guy at a local cultural event or some other place where there is an activity that you enjoy.

Which leads me to this, make sure you have something in common or something that you can bond over. If you can not agree on a movie, or a restaurant how can you ever agree on the big things? The best place to find a good guy, is a place where there is something you are both interested in. If you both have something in common it is much easier for everything else to fall into place, and with something to talk about there should be more to your relationship than just the passion. The passion will eventually die and you better have something to talk about, if you can't talk to him he is not for you. Also, be one of each others best friends, my fiance and I are best friends and it makes all the difference. If either one of you are opposed to this than this is not the guy for you either.

When a man looks for a woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with, he is not looking in the bar, he knows why people go there. He is also not looking for a women in a spot where he himself would never go or where an activity is happening that he would never participate in. Good men look for women who have a future, and thus have a job or are going to school so that they can get a good job. They also look for women who like to do what they do, but who also have other interests as well. This will allow for you both to spend time together but also have that much needed time apart and the option for the woman to bring something new and interesting into the life of the guy.

Now with these tips in mind, cancel that trip to Atlantis and go get those good guys.

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