by Christina Rivas

Created on: August 06, 2008

For a long time men were considered to be the superior sex as compaired to women in almost every aspect of our daily lives. It was thought that men were stronger and more intelligent, while women were the weaker and less intelligent sex. It was this common misconception, that I believe helped to spaw the phrase 'King of the household'.

In essence a man's place was to provide for his family, while the women's place was in the kitchen. Now a days most people are a little more enlightened. We know that women are just as capable as men are to work and provide for our families, and in most situations, a husband and wife share responsibilities equally.

While I was searching through the available topics to write about, had to stop at this one. I myself am a married women, I am also a stay at home mother. I cannot tell you how many times I have come across this topic on a day to day basis. There are many beliefs and opionions on this topic, however today I will focus on my beliefs. When a couple enters into the union of marriage, they in essance form a partnership.

This means they share everything from responsibilities, pleasures, decision making and everything in between. A partnership can be explained in many ways, the way that I see it, is that both parties involved, share responsibility. Now I have spoken to more than a few people about this topic, and I have to say that I was shocked and more than a little appaled by some of the responses that I recieved.

When I spoke to one women she asked me what I did for a living? When I responded that I was currently a stay at home mother of two, who also happened to be taking a course in freelance writing, she actually had the nerve to LAUGH! The women I spoke with went on to explain her opionion to me. She said that since my husband was the one working to bring home an income to support our family, he was the boss.

I cannot express to you how angry that made me. While it is true that my husband is the one bringing home money, there is plenty that I do to share our responsibilities. Yes I am a stay at home mother, but that doesn't mean that I sit at home all day watching talk shows, in fact I haven't watched one of my tv programs since my oldest was born a little over three years ago.

I work very hard to ensure that the house stays clean, the cooking gets done, the laundry is clean, our children are well cared for, and that my school work gets done as well. While I may not bring in an income, my husband still understands that being a stay at home mother, is a full time job and a non-paying job at that. I explained to the women that in our home, we have a partnership.

I can only hope that they are other enlightened people out there who share my opionion. I hope that you have enjoyed reading my article and I look forward to any feedback that you may have.

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