by Josiah King

Created on: August 05, 2008   Last Updated: August 13, 2008

"Honey, do you remember what today is?" That question could either cause your heart to skip a beat, or bring a big smile to your face. It all depends on your preparedness to that question.

Let's take for instance, anniversaries. No matter whether you have been together for six months or ten years, this one is usually a big one for the lady of your life. And can spell trouble on the horizon, or a really good night for you.

Often times, the forgetting of the anniversary happens by mistake, and is not intentional. Still, this can still interpret the same to her. That is, you care more about other things than you do the relationship.

But, fear not! There are things you can do to help you come out looking like her knight in shining armor.

First, listen to her, and hear what she is saying. In other words, be actively engaged in the conversation, even if you aren't saying a thing. You'd be surprised how often your lady will either directly or indirectly tell you about dates and even gift ideas. You just have to be listening.

And since I am on the topic of gifts, here are a few suggestions to picking out the right gift.

Learn her love language. If you are not familiar with the concept I am speaking of, then not only would the book "The Five Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman, be of use to you both, but would also be a great little heart warming gift. It tells your love, I care about our relationship and want to help us grow stronger in it. In this book, Dr. Chapman, discusses the fact that people receive love in different combinations of these love languages.

Then, the other thing to consider is the level of commitment she has given the relationship. For example, when you are celebrating six-months together and you aren't married yet, then buying her a food processor might be a problem. Or worse yet, a vacuum. Though these may sound like practical gifts, they could be interpreted in a far different way.

This actually leads me to another point you might consider. The one of interpretation. Though I would not argue that you could possibly know how your lady would interpret any and everything. I would argue that it is possible to, at least, anticipate how she would react to certain things. This would require paying attention to her responses to things she see, hears, tastes, feels, or even talks about with you or others. Knowing how she might interpret something would put you leaps and bounds ahead of some of your other fellow men. And, even if you fail, you can still recall to her times where she has given you this impression. At the very least, she will feel touched to some level by the fact that you were paying attention, and noticing her.

Another idea of note, is gifts that require you both. This means you are wanting to be involved more in sharing life together with her. But, don't interpret that as her not wanting gifts that are just for her. Things like perfumes, a pedicure or manicure, a day at the spa are just a few things that say, "I want you to enjoy yourself."

If you want to pick the right gift, then learn your love better. Examine her actions, reactions, and her likes and dislikes. Speak love to her in the language that rings loud and clear in her heart, and you can be assured with 95% accuracy that you won't go wrong.

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