by Kate Johns

Created on: August 05, 2008   Last Updated: January 20, 2012

How to recover from a toxic relationship. There's only one way to recover from a toxic relationship and that is to run. Run like the wind. Run as fast as fast as you can. Put as much distance as you can from yourself and the toxic relationship. If you can, pack all your belongings and move to another city.

Distance is the key here, and the faster you move, the better off you are and the faster you can start a new life.

But for many people they are powerless to run away from a toxic relationship. They can't run because they are in love with a toxic person and don't realize how bad the relationship is. Sometimes they can't leave; the couple have a life together and they can't just leave the children with the other half of the toxic duo. Sometimes the toxic relationship is hard to get away from because the couple have built a life together that neither wants to give up. It could be a case of two people living the millionaire, jet- setting lifestyle, that will end by splitting up. Who wants to give up that kind of lifestyle?

Think about the character on the Saturday Night Live TV show that doesn't have a good thing to say about anything or anyone. She only has doom and gloom emanating from her aura. Everything she says spells a forthcoming disaster waiting to happen. People finally give up listening to her spread the unhappiness gene forth and leave the area, or find something else to do. Isn't Debbie Downer the name of this character?

People very much like Debbie Downer should be run away from. They suck all the good energy out a room. A person like Debbie Dwoner sucks the very life force out of a good person, a happy person or a well- intentioned person. You have to put some distance from a person like this. And for many people they have to live with a person that is toxic. They are in a relationship with this person and the only way out is to leave, to get a divorce, to find another person who is a lot happier. Many times a person has relatives that are doom and gloomers. The only thing a well- intentioned person can do is nod their head in agreement, while wearing small earplugs.

Recovering from a toxic relationship can be a very difficult thing to handle. The un-toxic person has to try to recover their self esteem and find a new life without the toxic person. That usually means starting over, moving out, finding a new place to live, finding new friends, or even a new job. But it is worth it to find self-fulfillment and to have a more rewarding, happier, non-toxic

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