by Christina Harper

Created on: August 05, 2008

It has been a week since we "officially" broke up, but the stroy of our downfall begins earlier. He was younger than me, by ten years, and we fell madly in love in a very short span of time. We were the center of each other's universe, and after a few months we discussed marriage and children.
I should have paid more attention to the words I had spoken from the very beginning. I felt that with the difference in our ages, life experience, and backgrounds, we had quite the rocky road in front of us. Him, being the eternal optimist, kept saying we could "take it as far as we want."

We tried, believe me, we tried. About a month ago we mutually, bud sadly, came to the agreement to end things as they had just gotten to difficult. Our age difference was becoming quite noticeable. It was rough, but we knew it was for the best.
Well, much to my surprise, a week later, he called me and he would like to give it one last try because he was so in love with me. I was hesitant, but I agreed. Things were going well, and we hung out together as soon as our opposite schedules would allow. We had a great time, talking and laughing, and just being a couple.
Imagine my complete and utter shock 5 hours later when I recieved a text message that said he was sorry, he could not lie to anymore, and that he had started seeing someone on our initial break. I was shocked and mad and angry. How could he? I didn't get it! I mean it was one week. I freaked out and asked him to at least explain things to me in person. He would not see me, and he would not answer my phone calls. The only explanation I got was via text messaging. Text messaging?! Did I not deserve the respect to have him speak to me in person?
I called my dear best friend, and she came over immediately. She was shocked as well. No one saw this coming, as getting back together was his idea.
I felt alone and sad and humiliated. I did not eat for four days, I barely slept, and I cried constantly. I have never felt so low in my life.
After my tears dried, I decided this guy is NOT worth it, and he does NOT deserve someone as kind-hearted as me.
Break-ups are earth shattering, soul crushing blows to one's self esteem, and recovery takes a while. So here is my advice to anyone with a broken heart:
1) Give yourself time to grieve
2) Surround yourself with good friends and family
3) Get out of the house
4) Do something, anything, to distract yourself
The old saying is that time heals all wounds. Although mine are far from healed, I am on the right road and I know someday I will meet the man I am meant to spend my life with. We all will.

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