by Bronzehairedgirl620

Created on: August 03, 2008

Well first off you want to talk to your daughter about sex before she hits those dreaded teen years. If she knows about it early on she will no what to expect. The amount of girls I know in my year group (11) who are pregnant is unbelievable. When I ask them they either say:
"I never thought i would get pregnant" or "I forgot to use a condom" or "I was on my period and you can't get pregnant when you are."

There are some simple things you want to avoid.

1)SMILING TOO MUCH - I know it sounds stupid but you will make it really awkward if you start smiling. Your daughter probably is not going to want to talk about it so you have to make it seem like you are talking about something else.

2)NO BUG EYES- If you are surprised by how much she knows don't raise you eyebrows again it makes it awkward and she wont want to go on.

3)PROMPT HER- if she stops talking or gets stuck gently ask her questions.

4)DON'T BOMBARD HER WITH EXCLAMATIONS - this ones a biggie, you want to avoid doing or saying things like- "Really?!" "Wow! you know about that?!?!" "Wait I never knew that" remember that you are the adult and have to stay in control of the conversation.

5)DON'T USE SILLY EXAMPLES- believe it or not your daughter is past the stage of "The Bird and The Bees" if you use these kind of examples she is not going to take you seriously.

6) BE CALM- if she is telling you something and is incorrect let her finish and say something like: "Actually, it is a little different...." and then explain how it all works.

7) DON'T TRY TO CRAM IT ALL IN ONE SESSION- take you time and let her ask questions, it is important that she knows everything and that isn't going to happen in one 15 minute session.

Also you have to go through the following:
. You can get pregnant when you are on you period
. If you have sex in a bath, standing up or during a full moon you can get pregnant.
. If you use cling film it doesn't work! - there is a coating on a condom that kills sperm that is not on cling film!
. NEVER USE TWO CONDOMS! the friction makes them break.

Remember when you are talking to her she is now a young adult you should treat her that way. Don't just randomly stumble upon the conversation- set a time aside where you can all speak and have a conversation. It probably won't be an enjoyable experience but it has to be done! If you avoid it then you might have a pregnant daughter by the time she is 16. Just get it over with and remember she probably has a lot of questions and that you are more embarrassed than she is.

- Just so you know i am a teenager (15) and these are the things my parents did, my mum and dad have actually been talking to me about sex for a long time so it is never awkward when we talk about it.

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