by Sicily

Created on: August 02, 2008

Growing up my mother always offered us the option of doing chores. Along with the option of chores came the option of allowance. When I was a teenage I constantly complained that I needed money to go out, or for a new outfit. My mother always refused unless chores were done.

My mother always left the option open for the chores to be done, but if we decided not to participate then we received none of the benefits. Being a mother I now begin to realize that instead of pushing us into doing the chores, she made us want to do them. My sister and I always wanted something new, so we had to do chores in order to get things. My brother on the other hand only did his chores when he was desperate.

Being a teenager nowadays is hard enough as it is, without added pressure. I think by giving your child chores as an option instead of a requirement makes it easier. Mostly all teenagers approach every situation the same "What can I get out of it?" While teenagers do the chores just too simply receive compensation, parents are teaching their children that nothing in life comes free. If you as a parent provide the necessities, and offer allowances for things your children want you prepare your child for the work world. Most children that grow up being spoiled and getting things handed to them without having to do things in return struggle when they hit the real world.

By coming up with a system that promotes the positive sides of chores, and avoiding demanding them children, teenagers in particular respond better. The one thing every teenager hates is being told what to do, and when. If you have an open door policy about chores you may even find your teenager eager to complete the task at hand.

When you teach your children about work, it gives them an example to follow. By promoting the positive aspect you show your children how to be responsible, and at the same time teach them values. Now don't be mistaken I'm not saying that teenagers shouldn't do their equal part in the household, but chores that go beyond cleaning their room, and putting their plates in the dishwasher, are the ones not to be required on a constant basis. For example if your offer your child $15 to cut the grass, instead of demanding it, they realize that they are worth something.

I know most parents are in shock right now, but here's another way to look at this. If your teenager comes to you after just coming back from school shopping and says "Mom, Jenny just got these great earrings that I HAVE TO HAVE for school." That's when you offer a chore for the money for the earrings. If you don't push your child, or demand things be done the are much more willing to cooperate and meet you half way.

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