by Kim Sharpe

Created on: August 01, 2008

After giving birth to two children I think that I can lend my opinions on this topic. I, personally, feel that bonding starts when the baby is still in the womb. From the moment a woman finds out she is pregnant she is intune with her body. Every cramp, every twinge, is noticed at first. You worry if its normal. You worry about the baby growing inside of you. You seem to start to focus completely inward.

Then comes the magic moment when the baby moves for the first time. Its the most amazing feeling in the world. In that second you realize that there truly is another person inside of you. A tiny baby who needs you and depends on you. Pretty soon you focus on every twist and turn your baby makes. Every small kick. You wonder if its a foot or a hand that is pushing at you.

You will anxiously look forward to the ultra sounds. You will catch your first glimpses of your tiny baby. With these glimpses you make note of the position your baby is in so you can identify his small head, body, feet, hands, and every inche of him as he moves within you.
Eventually you will be so in tune with your baby that you will begin to notice your babies schedule. He or she will sleep at almost the same times of day and be active at other hours. You will await those momemnts of activity.

Most mothers start talking to their babies when they move. And then a real miracle starts to happen. Your baby will respond to the sound of your voice. He or she can hear you. Its amazing to know that the tiny life inside of you is listening to you.

When your baby is finally born and laid into your arms most babies will be crying at the indignity of being thrust into the cold world from the warmth of the womb. When your baby is crying talk to it. You will be amazed when it actually stops crying and listens to you like it did in your womb. Your sweet little newborn knows you. It knows you are the mother who it spent forty weeks inside of. It knows your voice and it knows you. Now the ties of bonding are invincible. From the moment on it will just get stronger and stronger between the two of you.

There are no words to describe the love a mother feels for her newborn. It is like nothing you will ever experience in your life. You will be more bonded with your newborn then you will ever be with another human being. You live and breath only for your baby.

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