by Celoris Gates

Created on: July 31, 2008

You know it's true love when you're also in love and have been friends before lovers. Lust won't last, it gets old quick, but true love with being in love will last. It's true love when you both learned of each others needs, wants, and desires before becoming initimate (sexually). You developed an emotional relationship built upon communication. Through communication, you both learned of the other and you understand each other's needs. You know it's love when it's genuine and you know without a doubt that it's reciprocated. You know it's love when you both forsake others and come together without involving others in your relationship. You know it's love when despite your flaws you're still wanted, needed, and desired by that person.

You know it's love when you have each other's back, you're strength where he's weak and vice versa. You know it's love when it's not a constant struggle. If it's built on communication (effective) then everything else will fall into place, guaranteed! Your synchronized, you don't have to say anything, the other person already knows (your favorite color, foods, likes and dislikes, etc). They respect you, appreciate, compliments you, and never take you for granted. No! I'm not dreaming and it's not a fairy tale. It can be you, you, and you, but first know who you are, so you can be the best for your mate and vice versa. Now, that's love!

It takes a lot getting to know yourself first. It comes with maturity. Love isn't controlling, demanding, or hurtful. We get painfully hurt when the other person doesn't understand how we feel. Why? Because there's no good communication. You talk, but you don't hear one another, therefore nothing is being taken in.

When a woman and a man communicate effectively, they will most definitely know without a doubt what that other person needs and vice versa. With good communication, comes trust, loyalty, commitment. If you have good communication you will have built an a strong foundation for the relationship. With a good strong foundation comes a sucessful relationship. It takes the effort of both people, not ever rejecting, but always taking the time to listen and understand.

People struggle so much in relationships because they are not on the same accord. They are pulling in two different directions and not coming together. They are not together in their faith, on wanting or rearing children, sex, or anything. There relationship is chaotic! You have to allow your man to be the man. If he's a real man and not a immature young man in a growns man's body, he will want the best for himself and for you. You both will know the difference in completely being in love versus obsessing.

Love is the most wonderful thing, but you first must know who you are, so you can be the best you can be for that mate.

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