by Celoris Gates

Created on: July 31, 2008

No one should say that it will be easy, it's not. However, it shouldn't be a constant struggle. People forget about what it took to get there mate once they got them. You must continue to nourish your relationship so it can continue to grow. Appreciate, compliment, and never take for granted your partner! Communication is the key and everything else is built around it. Think about yourself, how do you want your mate to treat you? Think of how you want your needs met. Be to your mate, what you want your mate to be to you. Learn how to stay in the present during an argument. Learn about your mate, their needs, wants, and desires, then work on meeting them on a daily basis. It's something you constantly work at, but the more you truly get to know your mate, the easier it becomes. Although you're married, continue to date forever! Continue to let your mate know what he/she means to you, don't just talk it, show it!

Don't wait until things are out of hand, talk out your feelings! Learn how to grow together. If you take the time to understand who you are married to, that is half the battle. When you know your partner, you will make better choices when it comes to him/her. This alleviates hard feelings. There's nothing worst, being married to someone, who doesn't know your favorite color, foods, when your feeling sad, when your in pain, your birthday, your anniversary, or what makes you happy. So, it's very important to get to truly know your mate. Once you do this, everything else will work itself out. It's because you have taken the time to let your mate know that he/she is very important and special to you.

Taking your mate for granted or rejecting your mate can be very bad for you relationship, with undesirable consequences. If you don't know, then read up on some things about relationships. Learn about yourself so you can be a better mate for your spouse.

Don't let the romance die. Always find a way to take time for the two of you, no matter what you have to do. If you have children and can't afford to go somewhere or if you just want to stay home, get a sitter, or if your children are older, put a big sign outside the door saying "please do not disturb." Explain to your children (if they are able to understand), that mommy and daddy, need time alone. Teach your children this at an early age and they will give you that time, without qualms. Remember, the same thing it took to get your mate will be what keeps your mate.

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