by Ryan Pearson

Created on: July 28, 2008

Your perception creates your reality. What you see is what you get.
Or should I say how you choose to see determines what you get.

There is a great quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer that says - "When you change
the way you look at things, the things you look at change.". I believe
that quote sums the message of this article up perfectly.

Whatever you focus on expands. If you meet someone and decide to focus

on their negative or unattractive qualities, then you will begin to
notice more and more negative and unattractive qualities. If, however,
you meet someone and choose to focus on their positive and attractive
qualities you will notice more of their attractive qualities, and they
will suddenly become a very attractive person to you.

It is our choice how we choose to see and perceive things. We always get
to choose how we see a person, place or a situation. Our perception
determines our experience.

Life is all about perception. If you look at a homeless person, for example,
and you think to yourself 'how disgusting', 'he/she is so dirty','why don't
they get a job, like everyone else', 'what a loser', etc........

Then you will see a filthy disgusting person that is below you.

If you look at that same homeless person, and you think to yourself, 'I send
that person love', 'I pray that they find food today', 'I wonder what
situtaion occured in their life to put them there', 'How may I serve that
person', 'I admire their peacefulness','I respect their humanity', 'I am one
with their spirit', etc......

Then all of a sudden they look completely different to you.You see their inner
beauty, you respect them as your brother/sister, you see their humanity, you feel
empathy and compassion, you see that beautiful Soul as one with yourself.

When you change the way you look at people, places or circaumstances in your life,
they will change. It is your choice if you want to see through fear and anger or
see through love and compassion.

It is the same thing if you are in a romantic relationship. What happens
often times, is after two people have been in a relationship for a long time, one
or both of the people involved will begin start noticing some of the qualities,in
the other person, that they find annoying or frustrating. As they notice a few, they
begin to notice more, then those qualities seem to grow and become very exagerrated.
At this point, all of a sudden the person seems completely intolerable, and very
often the relationship ends, or they stay together and are miserable.

If you look at the beginning of most

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