by Michael Zaphah

Created on: July 27, 2008   Last Updated: May 18, 2010

The Apostle Paul was right when he said that it is better to marry than to burn. I say better to stay a spinster than to get burned. I have been married twice and I am not saying that I wasn't at fault, but why is the pressure on to get married these days. I have tried to make the case on both sides and I seem to get checked on them both.

I have though long and hard on this subject based on my down falls and I fined that when it comes to getting married one should let time be the best searcher of the matter. The days of running to Vegas and getting hitched is the fools paradise; will lead to the road of destruction once the trill is gone of the honeymoon.

On the pros for marriage I see that we have the man and woman that are looking to build something that is going the way of the dinosaur, and that is a family. And yes, I am saying it America it takes a man and a woman to do that!
Never the less I may go the way of the dino to in my thinking, because I see reality show like Bridizella that would scare any man even to stay single. But personally I believe after two failed marriages that I have this only to say to the young couple. Don't plan the wedding, but plan your lives together.

Now the Cons its easy, there is no one to answer to but God, if you have mother who is still their living with you god luck. But even she can be put on the phone tag cycle if you play it right I'm only joking. Single life can have its benefits, no one but the dog or cat to rush home to, and if you get the pet rock you can be gone for months.

No house payments or for that matter, live in a trailer park with a RV. Then when it is time to move it easy; all you have to do is unplug and go down the road. Mainly it called freedom! You have no one to impress but you, and I think in this selfish generation that is the smart way.

When it comes right down to it if you still must go down the road of Holy matrimony. Dating each other to see if you to can just like each other, and then go talk with a rabbi, priest, or preacher in marriage counseling. Keeping it on the real side, I personally believe that two people should get married only if they are willing to commit after. Seeing if you to can love each other is more than just saying it. The sex in the city philosophy of taking him or her for a test drive will only leave you broken hearted. Because you can't trade those memories in once you get out of bed. So I guess I am saying thinking about marriage is not for everyone, but waiting is the best thing!

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