The human heart is capable of creating some of the most powerful feelings humanity can ever know. The feeling from true love that we're able to experience can be so powerful that it could almost be considered a drug. It alters the way we live, it alters the way we act and overall it can change a person in an almost intoxicating way. In the beginning true love is a time of newness and discovery. The closer we get to someone the more we want to know. Perhaps the only dangerous thing about true love is the level of vulnerability that grows as the level of intimacy grows.
The union between a man and woman is based on the many things that are established over time as they get to know one another. The familiarity and the very desire to be in each other’s presence can send hearts into a frenzy. The bond grows stronger with each passing day allowing the couple to feel as if they’re indeed floating on a cloud in the Heavens. Typically such feelings of love lead to the bond of matrimony.
The bond established in a marriage allows for a loving couple to live in a world where they are the only two people that can enter. The institution of marriage is based on desire, understanding, and the simple fact that no other man or woman can ever have that special place in your heart. And the one thing that binds it all together is the trust that has been earned during the journey the couple has shared since they first laid eyes on each other.
The inherant risk of true love is the high level of vulnerability that comes with it. When you spend time getting to know a person you'll venture into areas that are very sensitive and so intimate that the only way to get there is through the passage time. We allow this vulnerability to exist because we're seeking to know everything about a person, especially the secrets that should never go beyond the confines of the couple. We trust that the person we've given our hearts to, will take care of it, protect it, and keep it cradled in a protected position next to their own heart.
There are multiple points of view when it comes to describing the institution of marriage. The Bible establishes the blue print on just how a marriage should function. When a couple decides and realizes that they are each other soul mates, there are so many things that occur as the bond between the two begins to strengthen. The foundation of the marriage must be established on solid foundation which simply means understanding what it means to be equally yoked.
The foundation of marriage must be secure in order for it to survive the trials of life all the way until death. Many marriages are established on a shaky foundation which is why the divorce rate is so high in America. Marrying a man or woman based on how fine she is or how handsome he is, is a shaky foundation for a marriage because looks disappear over time. This is why it is so important for two people who believe they are ready for this big step to be well versed in understanding red flags, and the quirks of their chosen one. People marry pre-maturely and often miss the red flags in the process. It’s not entirely impossible to have a successful marriage after getting to know someone for 6 mos. but it is difficult to learn the quirks of someone in such a little amount of time.
A forgivable sin is just about any sin that man is capable of committing. In understanding spirituality the one thing we must be aware of is who the forgiveness is really for. When you read the Bible, what we understand about marriage is that infidelity is the only reason a marriage should end. The marriage contract is violated when one decides to take it upon themselves to not only disrespect their spouse, but to also violate the very blueprint of the institution of marriage as it is written.
As mentioned earlier everything that is established in a relationship from the beginning is binded by the belief of trust. Once that trust has been compromised, the world that was established between lovers at the beginning is practically destroyed.
When we forgive others, we forgive them because that's what we’re supposed to do. Clearly such forgiveness cannot occur overnight and it will take a lot of soul searching to truly forgive. The reason we endeavor to forgive is because in order to move on to the healing process you must have closure. Infidelity kills relationships, and although forgiveness in this instance is fairly difficult, it is important so that you can move on to the next chapter in your life.