by Erin Cook

Created on: July 27, 2008

When a couple first gets married it starts off like a fairytale. Where the groom sweeps the bride off her feet and all their worries and responsibilities are temporarily put on hold. Maybe the first year of the marriage the husband and wife are in total bliss. They move in together, have lots of sex and in total love with each other. Then responsibilities and reality sets in and things don't go as smoothly as you would want them to. When you get married you put all your spouses flaws to the side but after a while even the small things he/she does gets on your nerves and you question yourself "why did I marry him/her?" A year that you spent with that person may seem like an eternity to you because all the small things add up until it pushes you to the very end.

Marriage goes bad when realization hits you that the person you married was just a trick image and now that the person is stuck with you, he/she doesn't care how they look or behave because they feel that they don't have to impress you anymore. Along with all the small flaws the person has from not putting down the toilet seat to not chipping in when it comes to daily house chores. Then the bills stack up and children come into the picture and the stress becomes too much for both of you to bear. Since the government is making divorce simple you decide to call it quits.

A lot of people think that marriage is suppose to be glamorous like a fairytale like in the movies. Marriage is more than just love and glamor it is about compromise and sacrafices and tolerance. Everybody has pet peeves and the more tolerant you are the better it is for both of you. The people who stay married for fifty years or so are the ones that know what unconditional love is and what it takes to keep the marriage together and working. Life is not what it is in the movies or in fairytales. When you read the tabloids most famous people don't stick together for a very long time. Marriage goes bad when you give up on your love life and turn your back to the commitment you promised your spouse when you exchanged vows. Some spouses cheat on their wives/husbands, others are to wrapped up in their work to even care about their marriage. It is all up to the husband and wife and what little things contribute to the marriage sticking together or falling apart. All I can say is to trust your heart and your instincts because you need to find the right partner to be with you through good and bad times for the rest of your life. Or as the saying goes "Do you take ____ to be your wife/husband through sickness or through health, for better or for worse for as long as both of you shall live til death do you part?" Those vows are not only just words but meanings as well and both of you need to take it to heart. That is what marriage is about and with actions comes consequences.

Learn more about this author, Erin Cook.
Click here to send this author comments or questions.