by R Marie Taylor

Created on: July 26, 2008

There are things that a man can do to help ensure his partner is content and the marriage remains strong and intact through the up's and downs which may affect your income, personal safety or the health of anyone in your family. (aka richer/poorer, sickness/health...)

Micro-managing Money: Worry over money can cause tremendous stress in a marriage if you allow it. The very best way to handle this is to be extremely honest with each other and put the partner with the greatest strength in charge of general family finances. However, regardless of who is in charge of paying the bills, your wife will be happier if she has some money of her own to spend as she sees fit without your input or criticism, in fact, you really need personal spending money as well for the same reason.

If you both feel content in your ability to have some financial independence then you'll happier with each other. The easiest way to manage this is to have one bank account for direct deposits of your income and then to each have your own personal account for your personal spending money. You can have a set amount of cash automatically sent to each of your personal accounts (no matter how much or how little) and this will give each of you a bit of financial 'space' from each other. So don't micro-manage every pence in the bank but do have reasonable and regular deposits for personal spending.

Sex: Your wife needs to feel desirable, loved, listened to, cared about and appreciated. If you do these things, and remain faithful to her, then your sex life will be great. You need to figure out the fine points on this one, but generally you need to do things like this:
(Desirable)
*Tell her when she looks good and/or smells good
*Touch her often (stroke her hair/rub her shoulders/stand close to her when you smell good/kiss her neck/kiss her/hug her... touch her)

(Loved)
*Tell her you love her everyday at least twice
*Figure out how to show her you love her everyday

(Listened to)
*If you're both very busy people and/or have young children, then establish a routine that allows you and your wife at least 20 minutes to talk without distractions everyday. This can be immediately after the kids are in bed or early morning before they're up or... Spend this precious time focused on each other, really listening and supporting without offering advice. (Hint: This Is Usually A Great Time To Touch Her)

(Cared About)
*When you talk with her try listening to what she's saying rather than your own thoughts, this will help

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