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Well, you throw threes sticks on the ground and if they fall without touching each other, voila! You're Gay!

Are you kidding me with this question? Sometimes I wonder what heterosexuals
(like myself) are thinking! It is not a disease-this "Gayness" we whisper about in blog rooms. There are not symptoms to point to. It is not (listen up all you
right winged moral majority members!) I repeat it is NOT contagious! If your son or daughter has a gay teacher they won't break out in a gay rash....

Listen. I have many gay friends. I am also a nurse, working, sadly, with a large number of gays who have HIV. Additionally (huge confession block your eyes!)-I actually have real live gay people in my family!

Before the age of puberty, when no child is identifying themselves as a sexual being, every gay I've ever talked to told me they inately knew they were different.
They (if they were little boys)-identified more with what is considered in society to be "little girl" behaviors. The reverse is true for little girls.

At the age of puberty when estrogen and testosterone tells us to put up our sexual radar gear and start listening for bleeps-young men are attracted, naturally, genetically, instinctively to young men. Young ladies, to young laldies.

Because of the way we are all socialized, many supress these feelings. This does not mean they don't know they are gay. They know. They are in deep emotional struggles to hide it, overcompensate for it (yes there are gay high school quarterbacks!)-"date" the other sex. Most painful for all involved are those gay individuals who live in such a moralistic, close-minded family that they never feel comfortable being who they are.

We've all heard of the trauma suffered when ten or twenty years into a marriage either the husband or wife "opt out" of the lie they have been living and break away from the marriage, leaving emotional devastation for the spouse who
was in the dark and for the children.

Sum it up. You know it's raining if you go outside and get wet. Einstein
need not apply. You know you are gay if all of your friends are drooling over "her" and you are drooling over "him" (or vice versa)-again, Einstein need not apply!

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