by Odunuga

Created on: July 23, 2008

The most important question I want you to sincerely answer is this: What am i going to give up to get hooked up? Recently, i was in a conversation with a lady who is already 40. She said that it is her path to be single. She has chosen to be unmarried and has accepted single hood. She was waiting for "the one" to come. And she had waited for 40 years now. It seems so funnily-sad because sometimes; through our attitudes and ignorance we are actually chasing people away from us while we are thinking of how to attract them.

I don't really think everybody will get marry even though everybody deserved to be married. Everybody cannot get that golden wedding ring in their hands. Everybody cannot be addressed with a Mr. or Mrs. It is not a matter of scarcity of mate. It is much more than thatWhy should everybody marry? When some people cannot give the time it requires to create friendships that could possibly lead into courtships that will end up in happy marriage life? It is never possible for everybody to get married.

Some people who claimed to be hurting and wanting marriage desperately snob their prospects. They cannot create time outs even on Sundays or on public holidays? How can singles change their marital status when they are not hurting enough? It is not possible! What will you give up to hook up? Is the question every serious single individual must ask. It must be sincerely answered. If you are really seeking a relationship; there is a way to get it. Almost anything can be achieved in life. It only takes knowledge of the right strategies.

In order to get hooked up; you must be ready to change yourself. And change is what most people dislike. You must change your perspective of people and things. You must rearrange your goals and adjust your priorities. When you cannot change a situation, the best and the only wise thing to do is to change yourself. It is of essence to be friendly. It is important to be generous. It is vital to be caring and kind. You need to look out for ways to care for, and care about other people despites your tight schedules. You don't have to wait to be reached; rather you need to reach out to others in any way you can.

The law of reciprocity still stands. Every good turn deserves another. Learn people skills, basic courtesies and more. Gradually you will earn enough trust with people. Those people you relate with on daily basis may talk about you to someone who will desire you. That will make some new people accept you into their circle of influence.

Most importantly; you must be sincere with yourself. People see through you when you are pretending. Although, they may never tell you. So, do everything out of goodwill. The law of seed time and harvest still holds. What you sow in kindness will be reaped somehow. It is important to give time and also appear more attractive every where you go. Speak up to people; don't shut your mouth all day! Ask about their welfare, their life, work, family, academics and hobbies. Get to know them more. Discuss around their areas of interests. As you change yourself; you will change your marital-world. Don't just change your wardrobe and remain indoors. Get out and go to places where you can be seen. Visit people and places alone; so that conversation can easily happen and flow between you and the significant other. It is more important you change your routine, your attitude and your mind! Make friends intentionally. Keep up the relationship through follow up.Be open and vulnerable.Don't be paranoid. And you will be happily hooked up in a relationship.

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