by Kimberly Lee

Created on: July 23, 2008

Welcome to the beginning of the end.

We were so happy and everything was great. His mother was sweet and truly seemed interested in

getting to know me, his sister and I had kids around the same age. Everyone was happy. They

couldn't wait for him to settle down and have children. Until he did!

Everything was really great until we moved in together. And then it came. The rudeness and

disrespect was almost too much to handle. But after three years of fighting over the in-laws,

I finally realized where the bigger problem lie. As bothered as I was the I have a

monster-in-law I finally realized I was more bothered that he did not stand up for me and put

her in her place. All of the fights over the last three years were literally too easy to be

fixed. He needed to stand up to his mother, be a man and protect his family from any and all

harm that might come it's way. Even if that harm comes in the name of his mommy.

We now have a child together in addition to my two. boy have things changed in our

relationship. Sadly for his mom, she doesn't really get to be as involved as she would like

to be. It is sad all around, for him, the baby, his mom as well as me. I would like for

things to be good on all sides. It finally came to an impass and it was essentially, your mom

or me. I couldn't take it any more. With that being said, we addressed the real issue. His

lack of "manhood" as you may say when it comes to his mom. We finally did determine that his

decision to not stand up to her left our relationship unsafe and left me being hurt by both of

them. Once he realized that a choice had to be made, things seemed so much better. Not to

say she is out of his life, but he has realized where his allegiance should be. With that

being said, she no longer has power to be the monster-in-law she has been for so many years.

I feel safe in my relationship and there is nothing she can do to change that any longer. I

think most of us have horrible feelings towards our mother-in-laws. But when we stop and take

a closer look, don't we wish the men would simply just act a different way about it? I know I

felt like it was a big part for him to be the one to rectify the situation. After all, it is

his mom. Men need to pay attention to what God meant when he said LEAVE YOUR MOTHER AND

CLEAVE TO YOUR WIFE. He knew what he was taking about.

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