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Childbirth classes try to include dads in the birth by giveing him the role of "birth coach". Dads as birth coaches are encouraged to take charge and if they are trying for an unmedicated birth, help his wife/partner cope without drugs. Some fathers do well with this role and some do not. (mine did not dads and TRUST me you SHOULD)

The main role of the dad throughout is to simply love your wife/partner unconditionally during this time. That's all! They should not have to remember every little detail of their birth plan. They should be free to act as dads, whether that is crying, worrying, and absorbing the entire experience of childbirth and his new role as a dad. Good luck!

Doulas are not just for the mother; they help dads as well. Here's how:

* Labors generally are 8-15 hours depending on a lot of things. Some can last for more than 20 hours! A doula can remind Dad to take a break, get something to eat, or even take a nap.

* Dads want to help also, but are not exactly sure how. A doula can help him to support his wife by having him do various pain coping practices that may relieve and help his wife cope with the pain of labor.

* Dads have feelings too! The laboring woman is not the only one that is going through an emotional journey during labor- so is Dad (kinda). Dads get excited, nervous, worried, confused, relieved, and happy throughout labor. On top of these feelings is the #1 fact that it is not easy to see her in pain and not know exactly what to do to help her. After all, it is instinct in men to protect, he can feel very frustrated/vulnerable. Having a doula can help him to understand the process of childbirth, the emotional journey that she is going through, and assure him that the birth process is going well as it can.

* It is less pressure for Dad to have to remember their birth plans. Also, some dads like being in the "back seat" and prefer that his wife (or who ever) feel his strong presence instead. Some men are just not that good at comforting they can really enjoy a doula who can take over to fill that role.

(a doula for lots of women (me to) are their mothers)

Good Luck and try to enjoy this GREAT day in your life!

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