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Men to avoid in nightclubs

by Vicki Tan

Night clubs are places where you drink, dance and chill out with friends. Night clubs are not suitable places to find a relationship partner, because people who go there are just wanting to have fun, many of them are putting on facades; and the place is so dark, you can barely see anyone clearly. So if you are looking for love, do not go to a night club (let alone a strip club).

You may be a single woman who feels lonely or pressured to have a boyfriend. Hence, when a man approaches you at a night club, you feel flattered and decide to give him a chance. You may dismiss the fact that he has cruel intentions.

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Anyhow, if you do meet a man in a night club, what types should you avoid? They fall into several categories:

- Married Men / Attached Men

Some men appear to be single and available, but they are already married or attached. If he can cheat on his wife or girlfriend with you, he can also cheat on you with someone else, because that is what he is, a cheater. So make sure he is single. If you have to ask directly, do so. At least you have reassurance.

- Date Rapists

As you know, many women have been drugged at night clubs, only to wake up the next morning to discover that they have been sexually assaulted. So if a man offers to get you a drink, you can politely decline it, or you can take it from the bartender yourself. Be suspicious if a man keeps pushing you to say yes to his offer. If you already have your own drink, always keep it within your field of vision.

- Desperate Men

Men who are desperate for a girlfriend would keep talking to a woman even though she is clearly not interested in him. Such men tend to be pushy as they would keep pressing a woman to say yes and to reveal information about herself. By socializing with such men, you waste your time. It is not you as a person he is interested in, but the fact that you are an available woman.

- Socially Inept Men

Men who are socially inept have poor communication skills. They would talk at the wrong time, say the right things at the wrong time, say the weirdest things or only talk about the same thing. By socializing with such men, you also waste your time.

- Bouncers

Apparently, bouncers are sleazy people. They are often trying to get women's numbers to get into their pants. So try not to chat them up.

- Men who are willing to pick you up

If a man is willing to pick you up, he could have picked up someone else before. Hence, you are not special; you are just like any other person.

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Having said all that, if you are going to a night club, have a good time. Drink, but do not drink too much, and do not lose sight of your drink. Dance if you feel like it. Chill out with your friends and do not feel pressured to have a man. And lastly, do not look for love at a night club.

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