by Murina

Created on: July 20, 2008

In my experiences I can say yes men do not do their share of the house work. I was married for 5 years and I don't think my husband ever washed a dish or folded a towel not to mention clean the bathroom. I don't think every man is like this though. I believe somewhere out there, there are men that do help their women with the house work.

In my relationship now my man does take care of all the yard work and maintenance on his vehicle and he occasionally fixes things that are broke. I take care of all the housework plus the care of our 2 pets. This was nothing that we agreed upon but rather fell into along the years. Most days it is fine other days it really gets under my skin. I occasionally ask for help but I always get a sigh or the ever popular "Wait until Commercial break babe." In my situation I am the only one working, even though it's a part time job I have my days where I don't want to spend 6 or however many hours at work just to come home and cook and clean for hours.

He has told me many times that this comes from how he was raised. He was raised in a house where his mother worked outside of the house and then came home took care of all the house work. His dad worked when he wanted too from what I can gather and took care of the yard work and that was it. Sure, he would take out the trash but that was it as far as the housework. We have had many arguments about whose place it is to do all the housework and it ends up with me feeling used and so angry. I know he probably doesn't understand where I'm coming from on this subject. In my family my dad did all the cooking and even helped with laundry. My parents shared in the yard work and the cleaning of the kitchen. I have always felt like the responsibilities should be shared. If you make a mess clean it up, if you were clothes and need them washed, wash them, dry them then put them up. I don't ask my man to put my clothes up as he doesn't wear them but why should I have to put his up when I don't wear his?
I recently started to wash only my clothes and leave his, when I do get around to washing his I leave them folded on the bed so all he has to do is hang or put them in a drawer. Well this doesn't work all that well either, he gets mad because he has to put his own clothes up. I can't win for losing some times. He doesn't care what our house looks like when company comes over and sometimes I am horrified to even think of someone coming over and seeing the mess. Maybe he is just lazy? This is a lot of the problem to be honest he has told me time and time again that he is but how can a person deal with something like that? Most of the time I just let the house get so bad that I can't stand it anymore and I spend countless days cleaning it up.

I don't know about the rest of the world but in my case no, the man doesn't do his share of the housework.

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