by Marilyn Knowles Wilke

Created on: July 19, 2008

I was not going to write about this even though I am the mother of seven kids, including four girls. But, after seeing someone mention that some parents live in an unrealistic world, I decided to write. Say hello to an unrealistic parent, if that is the case, but first and foremost, teach your daughters about abstinence and how precious virginity is. Show them scriptures in the Bible and do not wait until they are teens. I talked to my girls first when they turned ten. This is because this was the first year they started liking boys and had a lot of crushes. To me, all this sex talk in schools is improper. Teaching the child the right morals should start at home and teaching them about sex should also start at home.

If you are honest with your daughters and tell them how you had certain feelings when a boy touched you, and make sure that they can come to you if they make the mistake of having sex before they are married, that is an open line between you and your girls. If they know that you are human and had sexual feelings, too, they tend to open up to you more. If you just preach abstinence without explaining the menstrual cycle and sex, then that is closing your eyes to reality.

Tell your daughter about periods and cycles in detail. Make sure she knows how to use pads or tampons. Tell her how important it is to be even more clean and sanitary at this time. Make sure she understands before your little talk session is over. Open the conversation honestly and boldly so that she will be able to open up to you. Leave your door open to her if she needs to ask you any questions. My girls kept coming back with little curiosities that amazed me. When you do explain, show them what is used so that they will have a choice and not be afraid to ask for help.

Explain about how your body changes. Most girls do not start until they are teens. I started when I was nine. That is another reason I decided to tell my girls before they were teens. When it happened to me, I was scared to death because no one told me anything about it.

Then, after telling her this, explain why she has a menstrual cycle and about sex and pregnancy. I made sure my girls knew that God intended for sex to be for marriage only. I also told them how much more special it is when you wait. I made sure they all knew that if they did make a mistake or whatever, I would not be angry with them. I let them know that I would be there for them no matter what and we would work through it together.

I made sure my girls

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