by JCSprenger

Created on: July 17, 2008

There are many conditions that must be met before you can speak of a great sex life. A man and a woman nowadays go to bed and have sex in a very casual manner; they may not even know each other well. There are many shows on TV that glorify casual sex, e.g., Seinfeld, Two and a half men, Sex and the City, to mention just a few. But a really satisfying sex life implies much more than simple lust and physical relief:

1. Love and Respect

The more you love a person, the better the sex, no matter what the age range may be. The more you respect a person, the more you will strive to satisfy her (spoken from a male point of view).

After 10 or 20 years of marriage, both know exactly what "turns" the other on. Each partner is careful to develop an exciting foreplay, which may include sexy lingerie, sex toys, watching porn or playing games. Do not above all fall into a routine; a divorced lady of 42 revealed that her husband wanted sex every other Sunday morning. Hardly satisfying for a young, passionate wife, don't you think?

2. Exercise and Nutrition

Contrary to popular belief, eating "sex" foods has nothing to do with your sex life. Your body needs the essential nutrients, of course, but a balanced diet will provide you with all the vitamins and minerals you need. Combined with regular exercise, proper nutrition will deliver the energy and the stamina to satisfy your partner. Stop spending hundreds of dollars on mysterious Chinese foods with incomprehensible names. You might even risk your health by ingesting pills that come from China, where regulations are very loosely enforced.

3. Variety and Diversity

Both words may mean something similar, but there is a difference when they relate to a good sex life. Variety means changing the stimuli that excite your wife; diversity has more to do with locations. The variety of stimuli may include music, clothing, placing food on her body (How naughty), lighting, sexy aromas, etc.

Diversity may be the place you selected: the kitchen, the bath, going to a motel (pretending to have an affair), finding a secluded spot in the forest or on the beach. If you can think of it, you can do it. Different people respond to different (diverse) situations. Find the ones that your wife will respond to the best.

4. Relax

Men of a certain age fear that they won't be able to "do" it; that fear by itself can effectively prevent you to function. Unless you just came out of a serious illness, or have not had food and sleep for two nights, there is no reason you cannot perform if you are under the age of 80. The psychological factors can work against you or for you. Start slowly by relaxing: a good romantic music, a glass of wine while lying in bed or in the tub, followed by a slow erotic massage from your woman, and you'll be "raring" to go. Get rid of negative ideas of failure; concentrate on having a good time. And even if that doesn't work, she'll understand if she loves you. Next time will be OK!

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