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Can you and your ex become best friends? Personally, my answer would be ABSOLUTELY! But then again it would still depend on the circumstances. There would still be factors to consider on thinking if you can stay even just friends with your ex. It would depend on how the relationship ended. It would depend on how long you have actually been together. It will depend on the bond the you already had together. It will depend on how open are you to forgive and how open are you to the possibility of friendship.

If the relationship ended in a way where one or both parties just lost the spark and fell out of love most likely they will still resort to being friends. If the relationship ended with too cheating or trust issues then it would be a totally different picture. Sometimes when the relationship ended in a hard way there would be the existence of arguments and exchange of hurtful words. Once these bombs have been thrown at each other it might totally break the trust and respect that the couple once had with each other. I will not say that there is absolutely no possibility of being best friends after this kind of separation. It might take time but there is still a chance.

Friendship is actually the foundation of every relationship made. As a couple you once were you at least became friends. You shared secrets. You shared problems and fun stuff. You invested time, money, effort and yourself in building this relationship. Maybe it was inevitable to end the relationship but at least you can try to save the friendship. Not because things did not work out for both parties as a couple it already means that they should hate each other for life. They can still try to work it out and be friends of not best friends.

I have a few failed relationships that ended in bad situations; however I and my exes have managed to keep our respect to each other. I remained friends if not best-friends to all of my exes. We still keep in touch and catch up on each other's life once in a while. I wouldn't say it is something very easy. Even I who can be this positive about this issue struggled to be friends with them at one point. When the break-up just past, the wounds in your heart are still fresh. More likely than not you will feel hatred for the other person. After all, I believe there might only be two reasons that may make you think that you cannot be friends with your ex anymore. One reason is because you and your ex or at least one of you hates the other so much at the moment. The second reason is because you cannot accept that after being "THE ONE" to this person, you are now demoted to just being his friend. The GIRLFRIEND to a friend that happens to be a girl or BOYFRIEND to a friend that happens to be a guy transition is always hard for those who have loved so much. I should know, I passed this staged not only once but many times. What I learned from this? Well, you should not rush the friendship. Before you and an ex can be friends you have to pass certain stages. You first have to learn and accept the EX stage, where you can start to forgive. After you pass the EX stage then maybe just maybe you can be at least friends if not best friends.

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