by David Swyer

Created on: July 17, 2008   Last Updated: April 20, 2009

WHY MARRIAGES FAIL

Most married folks began their lives together with passionate and intense feelings for each other. If only these feelings would last a lifetime, divorce lawyers would have to find another profession
Sadly, some marriages begin to deteriorate after a few years. The good news is that these marriages can be restored to a mutual and harmonious condition by observing some shared and endearing actions.

Before beginning to write, I began to make a list of all the marital problems that I have observed in marriages of my relations and friends. I even checked out some soap operas which I have found to invariably include just about every crisis and dirty trick that can cause a marriage to fail.

I have discovered that the number of big and little actions that can cause strife in a relationship are innumerable. I believe that the small infractions are probably not enough to end a relationship. On the other hand, it is the big items that usually start the shouting and bickering. Therefore, I will concentrate on the larger problems which are most disastrous to a marriage.

Professional help from good counselors would be very helpful if nothing else seems to work.

I have found that most churches offer a marriage consultation for couples in a troubled marriage. These sessions usually Include a written test followed by a conference with a professional consultant or with parishioners who have had a long-standing and successful marriage. Quite often couples will find during these sessions that they are unknowingly doing things that irriate their partners.

If you want to try repairing your marriage on your own, you may want to try some the following suggestions,.

Compatibility

Both of the participants in the marriage should have many things in common. Just being attracted to each other is not enough to glue a union together for a lifelong experience.

If one of the parties likes to play a particular sport he should plan to involve the other half to learn that sport so that they could play together and/or compete with other couples. In my experience, I have found that each partner of the marriage will eventually discover others of the same sex who also enjoy playing the sport. These persons will often form warm friendships. Now the original couple can play together or play mixed doubles, and sometimes play with a group of friends of the same sex.

Conversation

In some relationships one of the two in the union will enjoy talking more than the other party. In some cases this works

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