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their children to be happy, healthy, educated, and capable of making their own informed decisions.

I often ask people against gay adoption if they have an equal problem with a gay couple that has a child of their own that was not adopted. Take the example of perhaps a gay man who tried to live a straight lifestyle and in that time had a child with a woman. The woman leaves him and in the process gives him full legal custody while the child is still a toddler. This gay man embraces his homosexuality, takes a male life partner and they raise that child as a family. Is this acceptable? Is it the idea of any gay person or couple raising a child that is offensive or is it just a gay person or couple raising an adopted child which ruffles feathers? If so, why then the double standard?

As an adult adoptee I can tell you that after being in foster care all a child wants is a loving stable home. In my case I could care less if that home and love was provided by a straight or gay family. Remember this is about the child. There are countless children around the world that could find love and support in a home provided by homosexual couples yet they are denied this. Are we saying living in group homes or a revolving door of foster families is more stable and healthier for the child than a home provided by a gay couple? Of those children that are waiting for a home, why not ask them how they feel about being adopted by a gay couple and then ask yourself if the child is willing is it right to deny the child that family?

Furthermore as a parent in a long term committed lesbian relationship with a child we raise solely on our own, we do not raise our child to be a lesbian or straight. That is her path to determine. The only thing we reinforce in concerns to homosexuality is tolerance, something we extend to everything and everyone possible. So far she is a normal teen, she gets good grades, she conducts herself in an appropriate manner with the occasional expected teen rebellion, and has a grasp on what is right and wrong. Over the years we do at times ask if our being a lesbian couple has caused her hardship unduly to which she has always stated that she would not choose to grow up any other way.

Quite frankly denying adoption rights to gay couples is simply ridiculous. Sure the couples that desire a child via this route whom are denied such suffer to some degree, but it is the child in need of a home that is the real victim. If a gay couple truly wants a child there are any number of sperm or egg donors available as well as the old fashioned method of purely procreational sex. If a gay couple wants a child adoption is not the only choice. For those opposed to gay adoption they should realize that. Stopping gay adoption does not stop gay couples from having children, it only means more children waiting for a home will have to wait longer or go without.

Adoption is an act love, it is taking an innocent child that is through no fault of their own without a home and opening your home and heart to them and giving them all they lack in those regards. Remember that adoption should not be about whether you like the adoptive parents or not, but whether those people can give the child a good environment to grow up in. To say a person cannot do that only because they sleep with a person of the same sex is blatantly flawed and only insures more children suffer a life without a family everyday.

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