by Barbara Akowuah

Created on: July 15, 2008

"Once a cheater always a cheater" some of you may be familiar with that common phrase. Some of you may even relate to it as you may have experienced a cheating partner before.

Whenever a mate cheats there is always an air of suspicion that looms behind every cell phone call, text message and strange perfume smell.

This suspicion is always the bases for trust issues between partners which often leads to raging arguments, harmful words spoken and worst of all, a bitter breakup.

In the end the puzzling question is always raised... can a relationship with a cheater work out? The answer to this is the obvious no.

How can it work out when you don't know what to expect from time to time? Whether he is with Stacie at the bar on Tuesday instead of his friend Larry's house like he said. Or if he is at Kim's house on Saturday night instead of working late at the office like he told you.

The fact that you are uncertain about what your mate is doing is enough to cause angst and insecurity within the relationship that can drive anyone to the breaking point.

If a mate cheats on you it not only shows that he/she can't be trusted but it also shows that he/she has a blatant disrespect for your feelings and well being as well.

It is obvious that your mate doesn't care about your feelings during the heat of passion but what about your well being?

When your mate goes out and decides to engage in a careless rendezvous he/she is exposing himself/herself to STDs and other venereal diseases and ultimately putting you at risk.

Most people know that relationships are built on trust, love and security. How can you trust someone who repeatedly lies in order to cover his/her tail?

How can you love someone who shows total disregard for your emotions by being selfish and inconsiderate? And how can you feel secure with someone when you don't know what their doing most of the time and you have been lied to continuously. In other words the relationship will be heading nowhere fast.

Don't get me wrong there is such a thing as forgiveness, but fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. If he/she cheated the first time than there more than likely to do it again and again and again and again.

When in a relationship those involved must realize that they have made a commitment to each other and commitment entitles devotion and loyalty. You can't do either of those things when you are constantly thinking about someone else.

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